2 Big Tips to Tackle The #FASD Anger Monster by R.J. Formanek

FASD SURVIVOR TEACHERS  From Left to James Gideon, Myles Himmelreich. Emily Travis, Tanya and R.J. Formenak
FASD SURVIVAL STRATEGY TEACHERS – Thank you – We look forward to hearing real wisdom from our guest bloggers in 2014!
From Left to James Gideon, Myles Himmelreich. Emily Travis, Tanya Northcott and R.J. Formanek

Special thank you to guest blogger
— From R.J. Formanek –

R.J. is one of our beloved FASD Survival Strategy Teachers

Learning how FASD affects each of us individually can make a huge difference in understanding and managing our anger.

  1. We can learn what our sensory needs are and how to take care of them.
  2. We can learn how to deal with people in public so as not to be embarrassed by our own actions or words…

But, and here’s the BIG BUT!
first we need to accept and understand.

Many ignore the fact they are living with FASD, and this is one case where what you don’t know can hurt you, but once the light is turned on and we begin to understand ourselves… not through someone else’s eyes but through our own hearts and brains we can learn to lose that anger. We can calm down… but understand that we may always have ‘short fuse’ at certain times, and that we may remain a ‘work in progress’ for some time.

Anger can take on many forms and for many reasons.

  • If we are talking reactive anger to a perceived threat or insult that can be one thing, generally emotionally based.
  • If we are talking frustration based that can be addressed short term as many have stated above; long term – sensory needs, past trauma as well as any lingering secondary mental health conditions caused both directly and indirectly by FASD need to be checked as well.

Now RAGES… that is a whole different monster.

And I do mean monster. These are the total meltdowns that get us in trouble, the ones that destroy things and hurt people. These are the ones that give us such a bad name with many.

What ever the immediate cause, RAGES are the result of physical brain damage. Short and simple. Many of the “higher learning” centres in our brains are scrambled at best, destroyed at worst and there is almost no way of knowing which ones will still work, and which won’t. But our brains are amazing things, because underneath those higher learning centres is a base… an “animal” or “reptilian” brain that is largely in charge of the functions we don’t even think of… temperature control, physical needs (hunger, thirst, water etc) and defense.

When we feel threatened our brains which may or may not be able to understand fully what is happening may revert to the base “fight or flight” syndrome and react accordingly.

This can often be the end result of too high stress levels, emotional trauma, or pain of some sort… or actual physical danger. It’s the same thing that makes people scream and jump when they see a spider dropping towards them from the ceiling… we all have it built in… but it just serves our FASD brains a lot more than a neurotypical persons’ might.

Understanding rages is very important so steps can be taken to minimize the number of them, and understanding how to recognize the signals and take steps to head off this oncoming rage can make a huge difference.

Sometimes, a punching bag is a great investment.

And remember – When you know one person with FASD you know ONE PERSON with FASD! – That’s it! Alcohol destroyed different parts and connections in each of us…. Yes, we are a big puzzle!

#14 Days To FASDay – Plan a Pregnant Pause!

Host a Pregnant Pause… in your community… at your school… at your government center… get some attentions

How many Pregnant Pauses can we host around the world….

Need some t-shirts to sport a look….
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#27 Days To FASDay – Host a baby shower

Plan a PARTY!


Get a group of friends and join together to
support sobriety for a newly pregnant mom.

Need some ideas….

Visit Liz Kulp’s
FunWithoutAlcohol blog for FREE RECIPES

Download some great SPIRIT FREE RECIPES

Host a Non-Alcoholic Drink Mixing Contest with the best drink toasted to the future.

Take a PASS commitment to support a sober pregnancy – offering to find spirit free fun events and support during the tough and joyous moments.

Most of all HAVE FUN and CELEBRATE

Join the
Million Minds March to Build Better Baby Brains
Raise the Standard
Zero 4 Nine

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#30 Days To FASDay – #FASD Twitter Party

FASD Awareness Day 2011 was a a terrific initial success for increasing FASD-specific tweets and increasing awareness on Twitter; we’re doing it again in 2012 to have even more participation!

@FASDElephant (Twitter username of Michael Harris) is starting early and again encouraging and hosting a worldwide #FASD #TwitterParty on September 9th to make #FASD a worldwide Twitter trending topic and increase FASD awareness across the world.

See last year’s video (2012 video will be made in summer 2012):

1. Register for the Event: Register on either Facebook (to be set up in summer 2012) or Eventbrite, then I will send you an email and Tweet reminder on September 9th.
2. Share this invitation: Tweet or “Like” it from the “Share this!” section above.
3. Visit Tweet4FASD.com: Find sample tweet ideas, more info about the 2012 #FASD Awareness Day #TwitterParty, video tutorials on setting up and using Twitter, and links for more about FASD.
4. Tweet #FASD messages with 120 characters or less: No matter the time, no matter your location… Tweet several times using the hashtag #FASD on September 9th so it will show up as a trend on Twitter. (BTW, Tweets 120 characters or less are easy to re-tweet.)
5. Document your FASD Awareness Day event: Send Tweets and Tweetpics from your event on September 9th – Include the hashtag #FASD.
6. Retweet other #FASD Tweets you receive: Keep the momentum going!

A. #FASD Awareness Day! Alcohol+Pregnancy=Lifetime of Problems. Please don’t drink when pregnant. B. #FASD is preventable! Alcohol in pregnancy can cause brain damage. Please don’t drink while pregnant.
C. @FASDElephant I’m honoring #FASD Awareness Day in [city/country] by [tell me something about your event].

Follow FASDElephant on Twitter

Event registration for 2012 #FASD Awareness Day #TwitterParty Hosted by @FASDElephant powered by Eventbrite


Tell the “Twitterverse” that FASD is 100% preventable on September 9, 2012!

What if each of us chose to reach out to another person with a disability.

An kindness of simple things will make a HUGE difference in the daily life of a person with an FASD disability.

A ride to the store for groceries
Coffee once a month at the local cafe
Sitting on a porch swing.
Helping to organize a room
An invitation to dinner
Helping with a project
Going to county services as a friend or brain coach

We would love to hear ideas on how you can “be a friend” to a person with fetal alcohol spectrum disorders (FASD)

For t-shirts, hats and other gear visit www.cafepress.com/fetalalcohol