101 Holiday Strategies for #FASD to support you and your family

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From all of us at FASDTHINKTANK – Thank you for being a part of the life of a person with FASD
Holidays are a tough time for our kids. We may place pressure on ourselves to try to make holidays perfect. What matters is family and love and learning to live and appreciate each other for our unique gifts. Our kids do the best they can and if other people (aka, family) can’t understand that and you have tried to explain numerous times, just ignore them. Cut yourself and your kids some slack-scale back, stay home and enjoy the moments whenever you can get them. 

Holidays are meant to be joyful, happy occasions. 
Do the best that you can. 
You do not have to apologize for doing 
what is appropriate for your family. 

Meltdowns are not pretty and very few people understand they are not enormous temper tantrums. They can last anywhere from a few minutes to an hour and when they are over everyone is exhausted. What has your family done to make it easier for your young people? Following is our recent discussion on FASD Think Tank – we hope our cumulative experiences will help your families enjoy brighter holiday celebrations.

Create good sense.

Realize the world especially during the holiday seasons may assault our children’s senses. 

  • Have a go bag (sometimes called a busy bag) for your event with things to occupy child –  headset, video game, color books, washable crayon or markers, paper, playdoh, picture books, beloved stuffed toys,  favorite music or a craft everyone can do. Bring their pillows and blankets. One child may enjoy popping small bubble wrap bubbles another may feel assaulted by that sound. 
  • Bring a crash pad – a bean bag, body pillow, sleeping bag or pop up tent. You can also use a small folding table and add a sheet for a fort.

Sound – Hca624-heartpaint1ave a supply of earplugs handy. Disorganized noise can be a disaster.  If music soothes your young person, use it, but do so judiciously; if music is an irritant, keep it off or to a minimum.

  • The train under the flashing lights on the tree can be like standing in an Amtrak station
  • Shopping in the grocery store or mall can feel like an earthquake. Find spots in the mall/store that are quiet to have a retreat – quiet hallways or aisles without decorations
  • Multiple normal talking voices can feel like screams

Touch – If your young person is not good at ‘dressing up’ be happy they are just wearing clothes to what ever event and let the rest go.

  • Give a soft matching t-shirts or sweatshirts to everyone as gifts, make sure they are sensory friendly to you child and involve your child in the process. This makes a family silly photo easier.
  • New pretty clothes scratch, pull, tug and itch – trying online shopping at http://www.softclothing.net/
  • Test drive the clothes before the event and see if there is going to be trouble brewing
  • Bring additional comfy clothes and shoes to change in later. A set of warm favorite pajamas to go home in or a favorite stuffed toy, blanket or sleeping bag.Consider a hot bath for your child before leaving a family function.
  • Model alternatives to hugs and kisses.  If you don’t want a hug, you could….  Blow a kiss. Give a high five or touch thumbs. My kids did elbow and toe shakes as a greeting. Role play the business firm handshakes. 
  • Use “Happy Feet” to put on shoes – if they are lined up correctly the shoes will smile at each other. If they are not lined up right them will frown and have a sad face.

Smell – Holiday scents make bring back memories and also may be overwhelming

  • We always brought Peace and Calm essential oil – you can use a sent that the child loves the most for calming – lavender, cedarwood – put it into a zip lock bag to sniff. 
  • Swimming nose plugs dull scents and can look fun and silly – bring more than one if you are using them so other kids can join in the fun.

Sight – If the celebration is in a room with fluorescent lights, be aware the room may be very noisy and moving for your young person.

  • A pop up tent can be a fun refuge or building a fort (approved by host)
  • Bring some fun sunglasses
  • Bright lights and colors can be overwhelming and give anyone a headache.
  • Bring a night light

Diet – If the child is on a special diet, find out the menu

  • Offer to bring some yummy favorites to share.
  • If sugar is a sure send off for your child – bring his favorite dessert, have him help make it to share with everyone
  • Sensory input and nutrition every 2 hours
  • Create appetizers for all the kids in zip lock baggie – add holiday stickers – put in fun things to try – sweet idea (small marshmallow, M&M, kisses) – sour (green olive, little pickle, black olive) – crunchy idea – (crackers, chips or veggies)  
  • Make ice cream in three zip lock baggies and toss them to make the ice cream.
  • Make edible playdough for everyone to play with.

Motor Skills – If poor fine or gross motor skills is a problem

  • Offer to wrap presents for them or do it together with good eats/drinks and make it fun (and never criticize);
  • Practice unwrapping presents before you get to an event. 
  • Offer the choice of a bowl or a plate, plastic or china to eat off.
  • Bring safe treaded warm slippers to keep feet warm
  • Try to move from one side of the yard to the other without stepping on grass
  • Be prepared for wiggle buns – have white paper placemats children can draw or color on. We always have kid friendly side tables and if they must sit at a table figure 10-15 minutes of good behavior for some children is maxed and they can “ask to be excused.”
  • Play with the boxes – you can climb in them, slide down them, roll inside of them, fill them with foam peanuts or wrapping and sit or jump in them, you can stack them and smack them, sleep or cuddle. Think of your own box ideas.

Triggers and Memories  – If certain smells or sounds trigger past horrible experiences see if you can find an alternative that your child does like and feels safe with. If you know what your child’s triggers are come up with a plan of combat before the holiday event.

More ideas to get you through

  • Do not expect that she will be able to keep what she has gotten people ‘secret’ until holiday celebration

Exercise, for everyone. Walk – it is easy, cheap and accessible. 

  • Walk the dog if you have one or someone else’s dog.
  • Stomp in leaves. 
  • Feed the birds and ducks – Make bird pancakes and throw them like frisbees and see whose pancake gets the most birds. If you put them in the oven to get them a bit more crispie you can fly them further.
  • Skip rocks in the water or make a sand castle or stack a stone tower
  • Roll down a hill. Make a snowman, snow angels or a fort. 
  • Make ice cream with a hand crank or ice cream ball.
  • Bring in buckets of snow and put it in the bathtub to build a castle
Take is easy.

Keep it simple

  • If need be, keep decorations to a minimum for those who are easily overwhelmed by all this;
  • Regulate yourself, find a place for your own peace and calm 
Create a sanctuary in one room or part of a room 
  • Add things that are calming, comfy, warm and happy
  • Create exit cues (code word or gesture) and space ideas when you arrive so you know there is a safe strategy to calm
  • Stay tuned in to recognize early stress signs
  • Buddy up – break up time during the holiday celebration to be shared by all – Mom takes the first hour, Dad the second, a cousin or relative the third – have something fun and simple to do during that time in the event of overload – walk outside, build a snowman, make popcorn for everyone, etc.
  • Teach child to say, “I just got really tired, I think I will lay down/take a break/take some time alone now” – this allows a normal transition most people understand for another person to step away
Stick to a consistent schedule as much as possible
  • Structure is important, especially with no school.  Even if the “events/things” on the schedule do not happen at a given time, the structure of knowing what comes next or on a given day is important
  • Plan for lots of extra time so as not to be rushing to get some where (rushing = anxiety = problems)
  • Put some helper jobs in place if wiggle bottom happens – getting up to get extra napkins, salt and pepper, passing around the bread.
Make a calendar and don’t “over pack” the calendar

  1.  Create Down Time – Plan it in! Make arrangements for ‘down time’ during any family get together, having a plan (or two) of what would be socially acceptable to do if and when everything is just getting to be too much (my son did best with an iPod or such and I had to ignore people who told me he needed to get those things out of his ears and be more ‘sociable’.) 
  2. Need to not over plan or over schedule (the world will not fall apart if we don’t go to EVERY holiday party!)
  3. Make a holiday scrapbook or photo book to share with the child each year to remind them of the people in their families they do not see often, traditions that happen only once a year and food choices they may be offered. 
  4. Have the child tell you a story about the holiday – you will be able to understand much more how to help when you walk with your child’s eyes. 
  5. Make an early visit with only your child to deliver something for the event – check out with your child where the tree is, are they going to light the candles, do they need any help with anything.  This answers in their mind – What are they going to do? What are they going to eat? Where are the bathrooms? Who will be there?
  6. We made a paper chain with the days until Christmas and each day we tore off a chain and we have also used an Advent Calendar for each child.
  7. For Hanukkah (we celebrate both Christmas and Hanukkah), I have a set of 8 cards that say things on them like: gelt night, book night, gift of yourself night, giving night, surprise night, mommy night and a few others.  A card is drawn the night before for the next night, though gelt night is usually always the first night.  I read this idea years ago in some magazine.  It keeps the focus from being night after night of presents.
  8. Our son loves the trappings of Christmas so he helps us pick out a tree, decorate it, and take it down. Last year he said, “Why don’t we ever decorate the outside of the house?”  We gave him money to buy outside lights and he had a ball decorating the shrubs all by himself. We didn’t interfere with’ his decorating ideas. Our house certainly stood out with his color choices!  He brought all his friends over to see his decorations
  9. Starting in November we do a Thanksgiving Tree. We make a pile of paper leaves and anyone can write something they are thankful for and sign it. We read it aloud.
  10. We always have a kid friendly nativity set for anyone to play Christmas.


  1. Getting a less than desirable gift before it happens so there are skill ideas already shared. Pick something you know they will not get (a bag of celery or carrots, a broken mug, a bottle of stinky perfume, a piece of wood – have fun with this)
  2. Meeting and greet relatives (strangers to child). Pull out a few pictures and talk to the picture to practice a conversation with a specific person
  3. Offering to help and practicing the helping of something she can do – passing out gifts, setting out salt and pepper, walking around the table to serve bread
  4. Rules of being a guest. Teach and expect your child to be pleasant and polite. Practice greetings and saying, “Thank you,” “Excuse me,” “Please,” before leaving will help your child be more comfortable in social settings. 
  5. Don’t insist on eye contact but practice directional contact so they know where to look when a family member they don’t know very well is talking to them. Put a sticker on your forehead and have the kids practice looking at it. At least you have the eyes in the right direction.

Budget wise.

  1. It has helped (though otherwise I do not like to do this) to be VERY clear about my budget (ie what I have to spend on each family member). This has helped her prioritize wish lists.
  2. One of the best stocking stuffers is “coupons”. I Googled “coupon templates, Word” and came up with some templates that I now just use every year—fill in the blank part and print out on card stock paper. Amazingly, these did not get lost.  And at times she has given coupons to me.
o   When my daughter was younger, it was easy. In her teens, it something she had otherwise to ‘earn’ (like a ride, so several coupons would be “free rides”).  o   Now that she is in her own apartment,
§  “Free rides” are always a good one.             
§  A dinner that I make for her and then a 2nd one frozen is also good.
§  “Trip with me to Costco” is another one I’m going to do this year.
Gifts worth giving.

Younger kids.

  1. Starting in elementary school years, we tried to emphasize the fun of giving. We made a list of family members who would be getting a gift- Nana and Grandpa included- and give our son about $5 per gift to spend. This way he got to enjoy playing Santa. Of course I would go shopping with him, but the gift ideas had to be his.  As he got older we had to give him more than $5 dollars because he didn’t work. Now he uses his own work money to buy gifts. Two years ago this emphasis on giving gifts paid off. Our son told me that it was more fun giving gifts. He loves to give toys to our younger nephews/nieces.  Now that he’s 28 and works full-time, he uses his own money to buy gifts. He also wanted to buy a present for children of veterans or for children who lived in poverty.  (I was shocked that he even thought about other children.)
  2.  A calendar made of photos taken by our son (CVS and Walgreens will take the photos and make a calendar for $20 check other places for coupons) was a huge success.   Note: Our son has a talent for photography and a pro camera.  He got lots of ooohs and aaaahs from all the uncles/aunts/’ etc. for his calendars. All the attention made him feel very good about himself.
  3. A photo book of friends and fun times during the past year helps with keeping memories that so easily get lost.
  4. We open gifts all day long beginning of Christmas Eve to Christmas Day so they can enjoy each gift as they are opened. 
  5. Our son loves a yearly Christmas decoration that is only for him. He now has quite a collection and puts them on our tree. He thinks about the day that he’ll put it on his own tree.  Each decoration is special to him.
  6. Stocking stuffers with fidgets like silly putty, play dough, variety of balls that squish (pet stores and dollar stores are a great place to find wonderful fidgets)

o   Chapstick, LEGOS and baseball cards were always a big hit for the boys

o   Favorite makeup, hair things and fuzzy socks were always a big hit for the girls  

o   We filled stockings with foods they loved but usually didn’t get – olives, mandarin oranges, gum, small bags of chips, popping corn

o   Extra set of batteries, gift cards, crazy straws, puppets

Older kids.
  1. The biggest hit of all, for 6 or 8 years now has big a big box of favorite treat foods. When she lived with me, this included favorite junk foods (NOT the junkiest of the junkiest) that I usually would not buy for her or were pricey enough that I only bought occasionally (for example there is a pricey teriyaki flavored corn chip only available at places like Whole Foods that she loves).
  2. Now that she lives in her own apartment, I get things that she can’t buy with food stamps (including new sponges, dish soap, etc) some favorite junk foods, some staples she would not get herself.  Use the same box every year and it is always looked forward to with great eagerness. Can also slip a few ‘healthy’ things in there.
  3. We give a $10.00 gift each and can spend all year figuring it out. The gift can be from a thrift store, it can be rebates, it can be buy one and add the free one to your gift bag or you can make something. My sister spends the whole year collecting free things and putting them into a $3.00 plastic bin. Another member buys a bag of groceries saving the deals for the month of December. They are the BIG prize. Then we shake dice and pick a gift. At the end of the gift giving we have ten minutes of trading with a double dice throw.
  4. Gift cards that come in handy – Walmart, Target, Walgreens, favorite grocery.
  5. We have a “Let’s Dish” (www.letsdish.com) and it is fun to buy a meal prep afternoon and do it together.
  6. Host a weekend day “Make it and Take it” cookie or meal freeze bake.
  7. Our son loves to go skiing with his friends so we bought him a gift card of 5 ski trips so he could go with his friends.
  8. Car navigation unit (GPS) so he wouldn’t constantly get lost when driving.
  9. A debit card. He knows that it’s only for emergencies. 
  10. Bus ticket or mobility ticket package.
  11. Huge box of COSCO toilet paper with dollars in the centers of the rolls.

Gifts worth making

  1. Think of something that she can make (in multiples or big lots so enough is made for EVERYONE) that solves the gift-giving problem with one or two evenings of effort and then they are wrapped up and there are home-made gifts for all on list. Usually it is something cooked.
  2. Send her off to a paint it yourself pottery place or fused glass studio or other ‘make a present’ crafting place with older brother or friendly adult so she can make parent presents without stress.
  3. Easy Gift Making
  • We bought potholders at the dollar store and fabric paint and decorated them. One year we used permanent markers and drew on them and then sprayed them with rubbing alcohol to get a tie die effect.
  • Dip plastic spoons in caramel and chocolate and sprinkles wrap in plastic wrap with ribbon and add to a coffee mug.
  • One year we dipped pinecones in chemicals to make them burn different colors when you put them in the fireplace. 
  • For this year, I saw a chocolate mint bark candy in one of those advertising supplements that you make with some new Toll House mint-flavored chocolate chips. 
  • Peanut brittle was a huge success. I just helped him w/ the candy thermometer.  He gave this gift to a very grateful grandfather. I made the Christmas cookies- our son decorated them. He loved doing this. Of course everyone was told that he decorated the gingerbread men.
  • Wonderful dipped pretzel sticks in caramel and chocolate and sprinkles wrapped in plastic wrap and tied with a bow.
Thank you

  1. Thank you notes are mandatory to people whose gifts you do not open in front of them.  And must be completed before the item is used/worn.  Not fun but now it is, if not a habit, at least an understood ‘requirement’

FASD Think Tank is comprised of 25 professionals, core network providers and parents experienced in providing creative ideas for living, loving, and laughing together to build solutions for healthy living for persons experiencing the challenges of FASDs. 

Special thank your to FASD Think Tank members who contributed to this article: Kathy Hotelling,  S. Chris Troutt, Victoria Deasy, Jodee Kulp, Susan Rosenthall, Vicki Ness and Susan Rose

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May your celebrations be filled 
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10 Holiday Tips for Persons Living with the Challenges of Fetal Alcohol Offered by Adult Living with Challenges of FASDs

From Liz Kulp
(adult with FASD and core network provider for young people with FASD)

I prefer my life stable… 
every day I have a plan I can maintain. 
It keeps me on track. 
When the world moves so fast around me 
it is important that I take care of myself.

  1. Make appointments on the same day and the same time. Taking a break from an appointment may be a break for you, but for me it messes up my consistency. 
  2. Shop during quiet times when the lines are the shortest. For me this is late afternoon when I have eaten and am rested. When many people are still at work and before they “stop” at the store to get supper food. I still hate standing in line. I get anxious. I impulse buy. If it is going to be busy – I take someone along to stand in line while I go to the bathroom and regroup.
  3.  Be respectful of my understanding “I don’t do sarcasm” Words can hurt. When I have been hurt enough times I lash out. The problem is I don’t always know when I don’t understand. Most times I understand “EXACTLY” what you said – just not what you meant.
  4.  Even as an adult I have sensory issues. Fluorescent lights still make my world move around me and give me headaches. It is hard for me to sit for long periods of time without getting up. I still need to move often to remain calm.
  5. Wrap my gifts simply. All the tape and ribbons frustrate me and by the time I have opened the gift – I am less appreciative. Seriously gift bags or a filled stocking is great!
  6. Provide some of my comfort foods. There are certain things I like to eat and though I am willing to try most things my teeth and mouth still do not do carrots, celery or nuts. For me it’s the crunch I can’t munch. The texture I can’t do. The temperature of the food also can be irritating. I know it is a sensory thing and I have tried to overcome it, but those two things still remain. Let me substitute some of my choices – I try to pick two new – and then stay with my tried and true.
  7.  Let me use a flat bowl instead of a fancy dinner plate. I will not be embarrassed because I am using a bowl, but I will feel bad if I spill food on your fancy tablecloth. My coordination is not always on task and it is easier for me to pick up my food. Give me the option of plastic glasses without stemware. Understand that if I leave the table during the meal – I may be getting overwhelmed.
  8. Know that it takes me longer to understand new events, new places and new people. When all of these things happen at the same time if can be over-stimulating.
  9. Don’t speak down to me. Use normal language and stick to the facts. I love people. I love to laugh and I am a good friend to others. Take time to get to know who I really am – not by appearances or mistaken actions.
  10. I wear a tight shirt under my clothes that helps me hold it together in sensory issues. When I was a little child our family served food at a food center and Mom and I were clowns, it was fun to hide behind all the make up and bright clothes and pass out fun things for the children.
Have a Happy Holiday – find something to take care of you. We need resource people who are calm, friendly and honest in a kind way with us. 

Have a good year – Liz.

Dollar Store Delights in Holiday Savings

Xmas By the case can make a difference.

If you have a company party, association or church event – consider saving money by buying products from Dollar Tree by the case.

Check out their online store — to save running into crowds with children that get overwhelmed.

Don’t forget to take time for yourselves. Capture memory moments with the little ones. They grow too fast and even though it behavior may seem impossible, someday you will look back and chuckle.

Jodee and Liz Kulp

#14 Days To FASDay – Plan a Pregnant Pause!

Host a Pregnant Pause… in your community… at your school… at your government center… get some attentions

How many Pregnant Pauses can we host around the world….

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#20 Days To FASDay – Listen to persons with FASD

One of Many Voices 

for Fetal Alcohol Awareness Day

Note from jodee: I have removed L.’s name and country and added word changes in (–).
Please understand that this woman with fetal alcohol is writing in English, speaks
the language of the country she lives in and was born in another country with another
language – Well done L. You are a beautiful person. Keep safe.

Dear Jodee and Liz

I am 31 years old…I have FAS

I have pay (bought) Liz and your book,
the best i can be…i have been,
is comfusing very often,
and think bad things about myself…
but when i read the book i cried..
becuse i’m felt not alone anymore…
I’m catholic and is very comfusing their sometimes..
no one can see that i have FAS and
is hard to lived up to the church..
i always failed..
everybody failed,
but i’m never learnd,
and i’m feel bad..

but when i read your and Liz book,
and about your trust in God
i’m now feeling calm…
but i cry and cry..

I’m single mother to a boy who is 5
and get help from the socity in my country
…clean help,
and with paper…
but i wish more
…it’s very difficult

…i pray for God’s protection and
that he chow me to be a good mother…
hope you understand my english.

God bless you and your family.
Love from L. in Europe

Dear L.
Your English is beautiful and
very very good I am happy with your English.
To speak three languages and write to me
is very very wonderful.

Lord I pray for L. –
you know she is a good woman
and person and kind and loving.
Lord I ask for you to help her
and let her know she is not alone,
that many men and women have FAS and
many live good lives
She is living a good life
being the best she can be.
Father be with her and
help her learn good things
to grow in your love.

Jodee and Liz
L. may I share your email with other families?
Or may I add to my website –
I think your words are wonderful!

Dear Jodee and Liz,
thanks for caring and answer
Thanks for your beutiful prayer…
yes you can add it on your website,
but please not wright where i’m from…

My FAS is many fysical disorder
like haert deffects, and i have problem
with member (memory) in daily life,
when i cooks food,
and sometimes i’m not see cars come in my way…
and problem with anger, and self defence..
but i tried gfcd ( wtithout gluten and casein milk)
and now i don’t cut my self,
sometimes i have bite my self in anger,
but your book gave me hope,

It learned me to try to pray insted,
or chows bite paper insted…
my son gives me so mutch and i love him,
so i need to focus him..

the daily life is hard to focus and
it’s so mutch planning…
but God leads me,
even i’m bad sometimes…
One time in week i,m riding.
It’s good for me too

Love and pray, L.

#45 Days To FASDay – Historical memories

From the first FASDay Celebration on 9.9.99 – Ideas you can still use!

Here are some events as FAS Day #1 moved around the world – feel free to borrow ideas. Special thank you to Bonnie Buxton, Bruce Richie and Teresa Kellerman – if three people were able to get this much movement and awareness – think what all of us together can do today!

  1. Aukland, NZ: Breakfast for FAS supporters, Minute of Reflection bells ringing in nearby Mt. Albert Methodist Church. Events also held in Wellington, Hamilton and Invercargill.
  2. Cape Town, South Africa: program outside historic 37-bell War Memorial Carillon, which rang when Nelson Mandela was released from prison.
  3. Kiel, Berlin, Flensburg and Hamburg, Germany: posters, buttons, info stand in town centre; information evening for Social Services, teachers, physicians; famous restaurant giving free nonalcoholic drinks to pregnant women all day long.
  4. Iqualuit, Nunavut, Canada: events included church bells, art exhibit featuring soapstone carving donated by famous artist Ookpik Pitseolak, showing drinking mother with baby in Aamouti@ (parka hood.)
  5. Toronto, ON, Canada: program inside Metropolitan United Church included international lullabies on church carillon, native drum singer/elder offering prayer in English and Ojibwa, keynote address by Dr. Carolyn Bennett, federal Member of Parliament.
  6. Sioux Lookout, ON, Canada: program in local park featuring sharing circle, prayer by First Nations elder, Minute of Reflection with wind chimes and rain sticks.
  7. Kenora, Keewatin, Jaffrey Melick, ON, Canada: poster distribution to doctors= offices, three-level curriculum offered to teachers.
  8. Toledo, OH, U.S.A.: Day-long activities included hot-air balloon with words on it, AFAS: THE HIDDEN PLAGUE@ and matching yellow AHidden Plague@ T-shirts.
  9. Minneapolis, MN, U.S.A.: 9:09 a.m. bells included two carillons, City Hall, three cathedrals, two other churches, followed by large rally and speeches outside State Courthouse.
  10. San Antonio, TX, U.S.A.: Day-long information program for teachers and others concerned with FAS, included presentations from FAS Day volunteers, Claudia Barker, and Dr. Bob Clayton.
  11. Austin, TX, U.S.A.: program built around the 56-bell Kniker Carillon at University of Texas.
  12. Tucson, AZ, U.S.A.: 9:09 a.m. bells at St. Augustine Cathedral; outdoor program featuring two young people who struggle daily with FAS.
  13. Lakeland, AB, Canada: five communities participated in day-long events, including poster blitz, mall display, bars offering Apregnant pause@ nonalcoholic drinks for pregnant women, church bells ringing, junior high school students making FAS Knots, proclamations in all five communities.
  14. Red Deer, AB, Canada: all-day mall displays, use of FAS brochures as place-mats in local restaurants.
  15. Brooks, AB, Canada: A 9-block walk to symbolize the 9 months of pregnancy, with Atrimester@ information provided every three blocks. At the end of the walk the handouts were assembled into a picture of a healthy bouncing baby.
  16. North Vancouver, B.C., Canada: Co-ed sweatlodge held by AChange of Seasons Society@ with traditional pipe ceremony, prayers at 9:09 a.m., on Capilano Reserve.
  17. Port Orchard, WA, U.S.A.: Bells of United Methodist Church, at the edge of a scenic hilly bay overlooking the Pacific, plus prayer ceremony. Bells were heard for miles and miles
Fun gear buttons – t-shirts – drinkware – office products

Have a Party– Non-Alcohol Drink Mixing Contest – Mocktails

Party Alcohol Free

Summer is a great time for a party, but if you’ve had a past with party times you can’t even remember or if you are supporting a friend, co-worker or family member who is carrying a child consider hosting a Alcohol free drink mixing party and come up with some great new tasty flavors.

These are great to test out if you are planning a Pregnant Pause for September 9 Celebrations

Here are just a few and we will continue to add more:

Get gear to show off you’re

3 Dozen Plus Mocktail Ideas to 
Get Your Party Started


1 part Grenadine

4 parts Orange Juice

Mix. Serve over ice.

4 Parts Pineapple juice


1 cl (0.33 oz)  Grenadine Syrup

1 cl (0.33 oz)  Orange juice

2 cl (0.67 oz)  Pineapple juice

4 cl (1.35 oz)  Cream
Shake well, strain into a large cocktail glass.

1/2 c grape juice
1/2 c lemon-lime soda
1/2 t lemon juice
Combine ingredients in a tall glass; stir to blend. Add ice. 1 serving

2 c apple juice or cider
1 lg carrot, peeled and chopped
Place all ingredients in the blender jar – cover and whiz on medium speed until well blended.  Pour in one tall, 2 medium or 3 small glasses and drink up.

6 oz apricot nectar
1/4 c ginger ale
1 t lemon juice
1 t sugar
Shake well, add crushed ice. Garnish. 1 serving

Shake half Pineapple juice and cream well.

1 c   berries
1 c   milk
1 T  honey
Place all ingredients in the blender jar – cover and whiz on medium speed until well blended.  Pour in one tall, 2 medium or 3 small glasses and drink up.

1 cup    blue or black berries
1 cup    soda water
2 T  honey or sugar
1 t   lemon juice
Place all ingredients in the blender jar – cover and whiz on medium speed until well blended.  Pour in one tall, 2 medium or 3 small glasses and drink up.

1 cl (0.33 oz)  Orange juice
1 cl (0.33 oz)  Lemon juice
1 t     sugar syrup
6 cl (2 oz)     cream
Shake well and strain into a large cocktail glass.

10 cl (3.38 oz) Pineapple juice
 6 cl (2 oz)    Passion fruit juice
 1 cl (0.33 oz) Lemon juice
 1 cl (0.33 oz) Grenadine syrup
Prepare in a blender or shaker, serve in a long drink glass on the
rocks.  Garnish with 1 slice of pineapple and one cherry.

1 lb (1/2 kg) cranberries
5 cups (1 1/4) liters water
2 or 3 orange slices (optional)
1/2 cup (125 ml) sugar
Wash the cranberries and put them into a non-reactive saucepan with the water, a pinch of salt and if you wish, the orange slices.  Cook over medium heat until all the berries burst – about 10 minutes.

Pour the fruit and liquid into a cheesecloth-lined sieve.  Strain the
juice to the saucepan, add the sugar and boil for two or three minutes. Taste and add more sugar if it is needed.  Cool and chill the juice before serving.

DAK-A-WARI (strawberry)
1  oz lemonade unreconstituted
4 fresh strawberries
2 oz water
4 ice cubes
1 fresh strawberry
Prepare in a blender on high for 30 seconds or until smooth. Pour into cocktail glass and garnish with strawberry

1 part orange juice
1 part tonic water
Tastes remarkably like a screwdriver.

2 cl (0.67 oz) Orange juice
  6 cl (2 oz) Grapefruit juice
Mix and stir with ice in a mixing glass, strain off into a large cocktail glass.

2 cl (0.67 oz) Grenadine syrup
 6 cl (2 oz) Grapefruit juice
Soda Water.
Place some ice cubes in a large tumbler, add syrup and juice top up with Soda Water.  Stir a little and serve with a drinking straw.

1 lb    dark brown sugar
1/2 lb  salted butter
1 t  ground nutmeg
1 t  ground cinnamon
1 t  ground cloves
1 t  ground white cardamom
1 t  vanilla

1/2 cup brown sugar
1/2 cup white sugar
1/2 lb  butter
1 pint  quality vanilla ice cream
In either case blend all ingredients in a food processor or mixer and store in the fridge or freezer.

To make a drink add a dash of rum flavor along with 1 or 2 T spoons of batter to a mug of very hot water.

1 lemon
2Tbs maple syrup
 Dash of cayenne pepper
Squeeze the juice of 1 lemon into a 10-oz. glass.  Add 2Tbs maple syrup and a dash of cayenne pepper.  Fill with ice water.  Stir.  Drink.

LEMONADE SYRUP  (makes about 4-1/2 cups)
1. Boil for 5 minutes:
      2 cups sugar
      1 cup  water
      rind of 2 lemons, 
      cut into strips
      1/8 t salt

Cool and add:
    juice from 6 lemons
   Strain the syrup. Store in a covered jar.

      2 T syrup to
      1 glass of ice water or carbonated water
 2. Add:
      1 T syrup
      2 T orange, apricot or
       pineapple juice to
      1 glass of ice water or|
       carbonated water

From: THE JOY OF COOKING, by the Rombauers

Use only fresh squeezed juice for best result!
1  cl (0.33 oz)  Coconut concentrate)
2  cl (0.67 oz)  Lemon juice
5  cl (1.69 oz)  Pineapple juice
5  cl (1.69 oz)  Grapefruit juice
5  cl (1.69 oz)  Orange juice
15 cl (5 oz)     Sugar Syrup
Prepare in a blender or shaker, serve in a long drink glass with 2-3
ice cubes.  Garnish with one orange slice, and one lemon slice.

2 oz lemonade unreconstituted
8 oz cold water
1/2 oz. lime juice
6 ice cubes
Prepare in a blender on high for 10 seconds until light and frothy. Salt rim margarita glass and fill. One 12 oz serving.


4 oz pineapple juice

2 oz coconut cream

1 cup ice

orange slice for garnish

In a blender, add 1 cup ice, pineapple juice and cream of coconut.

Blend until slushy.
Pour into an chilled hurricane glass.
Garnish with an orange slice.

NOD-A-COLADA (pineapple)
2 oz. pineapple juice unreconstituted
4 oz. water
1oz. coconut cream
1 oz. half and half
6 ice cubes
pineapple wedge
Prepare in a blender on high until smooth and creamy about 30 seconds. Pour into hurricane glass. Garnish with pineapple and cherry and serve with a straw. Makes 10 oz. serving.


2 cups water

1 1/2 cups white sugar

2 cups mint leaves, chopped

2 cups lime sherbet, softened

1 cup lime juice

1 cup water
8 cups club soda
lime slices for garnish

Combine 2 cups water and the sugar in a microwave-safe bowl; heat in microwave on High for 5 minutes. Stir the mint into the water; let stand for 5 minutes. Strain and discard the mint leaves from the syrup; set aside. Stir the lime sherbet, lime juice, and 1 cup water together in a large pitcher until well combined. Pour the mint-infused syrup into the mixture. Add club soda and stir. Serve over ice. Garnish with lime slices.

1 cup    orange juice
1 cup    cranberry
Place all ingredients in the blender jar – cover and whiz on medium
speed until well blended.  Pour in one tall, 2 medium or 3 small glasses and drink up.

1 part    Grenadine
4 parts   Orange Juice
 4 Parts   Pineapple juice
The proportions are approximate, vary according to taste. Mix
together, serve with lots of ice.

5 cl (1.69 oz)   Orange juice
15 cl (1.69 oz)  Pineapple juice
 3 cl (1 oz)      Sugar syrup
several ice cubes
Soda Water
Mix 5 cl (1.69 oz) Orange juice, 15 cl (1.69 oz) Pineapple juice, 3 cl (1 oz) Sugar syrup in a large tumbler with several ice cubes.  Stir well and top up with cold Soda Water.  Serve with a drinking straw.

1 sm can pineapple slices w/ juice
2 cups  water
 1 T  honey
1/4 t  ginger
Place all ingredients in the blender jar – cover and whiz on medium
speed until well blended.  Pour in one tall, 2 medium or 3 small glasses and drink up.

1 cl (0.33 oz)  Grenadine Syrup
4 cl (1.35 oz)  Pineapple juice
4 cl (1.35 oz)  Orange juice
4 cl (1.35 oz)  Grapefruit juice
Shake or blend briefly, strain into a long drink glass.  Garnish with
fresh fruit, cherry, and a drinking straw.

20 cl (7 oz) Ginger Ale
3 cl (1 oz) Grenadine syrup 
Build in a long drink glass. Add 20 cl (7 oz) Ginger Ale over ice,
sprinkle 3 cl (1 oz) Grenadine syrup over it.  Garnish with a lemon
slice and a cherry.


2 cups cranberry juice, chilled
1 (6 oz.) can frozen orange juice concentrate, (prepared according to package directions), or 1 quart store-bought orange juice
2 tablespoons lemon juice
1 quart raspberry or strawberry soda, chilled
1 medium navel orange, sliced
1 lemon, sliced
1 lime, sliced
In a 2 1/2 to 3 quart pitcher, combine cranberry, orange and lemon juices. At serving time add chilled soda and orange, lemon and lime slices. Garnish each glass with fruit kabobs (pineapple chunks, maraschino cherries, lemon, lime or orange wedges), if desired. Makes 2 1/2 quarts. 

1/2 tsp Worcestershire
1 T Lemon Juice
10 cl (3.38 oz)  Tomato Juice
Salt, pepper and ice cubes
Stir in a mixing glass half  a tea spoon Worcestershire sauce, 1 teaspoon Lemon juice, 10 cl (3.38 oz) Tomato juice, and a little salt and pepper over ice cubes.  Strain off into a large cocktail glass.

2 cl (0.67 oz)  Grenadine syrup
2 cl (0.67 oz)  Syrups de menthe (mint syrup)
10 cl (3.38 oz)  Milk, cold
Shake or build directly in the glass.

TRICKY MARY (prepare 1 quart and keep on hand)
1 qt vegetable cocktail juice
4 pkg low cal sweetener 
3 dashes celery salt
3 dashes season salt
3 dashes Worcestershire Sauce
3 dashes Tabasco sauce
3 dashes lime juice

Combine all ingredients and shake, store in sealed container in refrigerator. Garnish with pickle or cuke spears. Use within four days.

Sources – Special thanks to Douglas Howell (The Unofficial Bartenders Page


“Mocktails” featuring Lucky Leaf/Musselmann’s Sparkling Cider from Knouse Foods

Sparkling Applelita

One 10 oz. can of non-alcoholic frozen margarita mix
20 oz. (two full cans) of Lucky Leaf/Musselmann’s Sparkling Cider
Ice cubes (as many as desired)
Blend ingredients in a blender. Pour into a margarita glass. Garnish with frozen cranberries…they float! Makes approximately four 8 oz. glasses.

Sparkling Apple Peach Sunrise
One 10 oz. can of non-alcoholic frozen fuzzy navel mix
20 oz. (two full cans) of Lucky Leaf/Musselmann’s Sparkling Cider
Ice cubes (as many as desired)
Blend ingredients in a blender. Pour into a tall flute glass. Add ½ oz. grenadine for the sunrise effect. Makes approximately four 8 oz. glasses.

Sparkling Apple/Strawberry/Banana Daiquiri
One 10 oz. can of non-alcoholic frozen strawberry daiquiri mix
20 oz. (two full cans) of Lucky Leaf/Musselmann’s Sparkling Cider
1 banana
Ice cubes (as many as desired)
Blend ingredients in a blender. Pour into a tall cocktail glass. Makes approximately four 8 oz. glasses.

Online Manual – www.fasday.com
Seminar – Or try our easy, effective, exciting 1½ hour program that walks you
 through the morning of Sept.9: http://www.come-over.to/FASDAY/ABCDEFG/ 
(material from 2002 has excellent ideas)

Follow us through the next 60 days and plan your local or personal project to build awareness of fetal alcohol spectrum disorder – Each One Can Reach One!

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Have a Party– Non-Alcohol Drink – Smoothie Recipes

Party Alcohol free

Summer is a great time for a party, but if you’ve had a past with party times you can’t even remember or if you are supporting a friend, co-worker or family member who is carrying a child consider hosting a Alcohol free drink mixing party and come up with some great new tasty flavors.

These are great to test out if you are planning a Pregnant Pause for September 9 Celebrations

Here are just a few and we will continue to add more:

1 firm Kiwi
1/4 peeled Cantaloupe
1 ripe banana
Blend into a smoothie. Pour into a tall glass, drink immediately and enjoy! Makes your tummy feel nice, some say it is good for ulcers.
1peeled       Orange (leave white)
1/2 peeled   Papaya
1 ripe banana
Blend into a smoothie. Pour into a tall glass, drink immediately and enjoy! Makes your tummy feel nice, some say it is good for digestion.
2 cups  Strawberries (frozen)
2 cups  Pineapple (diced)
Your Choice
1 ripe Banana
1 cup Peaches, Blueberries 
         or Raspberries
Blend into a smoothie. Pour into a tall glass, drink immediately and enjoy! Add a cup of yogurt for another flavor savor!
1 Watermelonm Honeydew or Cantaloupe
Honey or maple syrup to taste
1c Ice can add more ice if you
      want more thickness to drink
Blend into an icey. Pour into a tall glass, drink immediately and enjoy!

Sources – Special thanks to Douglas Howell (The Unofficial Bartenders Page