29 days of #FASD Love Bursts from Liz Kulp – Day 13

Happy Saturday – Love Burst from Liz
I learned as a little child it was better to tell the truth. Mom and Dad had a “TRUTH TABLE” at our house and when I did something wrong they made it easy for me to tell the truth by having the truth table. All I needed to do was ask for a counsel and I could present my case and turn myself in. When I did that – they would ask me what I thought I should do about it. And that’s what I had to do. If they caught me not telling the truth I never liked the consequences – I would rather be able to learn to figure it out myself.
When I was 13 I wrote The Best I Can Be Living with FASD and there is more information in there to help you understand what I thought about it when I was younger.

#5 Days To FASDay – Fetal Alcohol Awareness Month

Write a PSA!
Or use one that already exists –

September is Fetal Alcohol Awareness Month – so share this wonderful PSA with friends – or take a look at some of the other great PSA’s online – most of the people working with FASD Awareness willingly share –

This was created by a 2009 high school graduate in a tiny rural KY county – he’s got real talent, and I’m so grateful to him for taking the time to do this. Please feel free to pass it on – I want Parker and his fabulous PSA to get a lot of views today!!

Happy FASD Awareness Day from Kentucky!
Laura Nagel


#53 Days To FASDay – Parent to parent support

Some of your ideas won’t work and that’s okay – you tried anyway!

In 2009,  Deb and Jodee tried a Family Support Show called

TOOLBOX PARENT RADIO to get the word out about living,

loving and laughing with atypical children and adults.

Since we didn’t have enough listeners – we got shut down, but not shut up!

Each week we hosted special guests that open our eyes to new ideas and provide us with new tools to help parents and professionals live, love and care about atypical children and intense adults. We worked really hard on the shows and actually did 16 of them!

Don’t worry if your idea doesn’t work like you planned. It’s okay to try again later or another way.
Families with atypical kids are busy – REALLY busy – and life can turn around and spin in a moment.

Visit our website at http://www.toolboxparent.com/ for FREE ARTICLES, forms and more to help families and professionals.

Online Manual – www.fasday.com
Seminar – Or try our easy, effective, exciting 1½ hour program that walks you
 through the morning of Sept.9: http://www.come-over.to/FASDAY/ABCDEFG/ 
(material from 2002 has excellent ideas)

Follow us through the next 60 days and plan your local or personal project to build awareness of fetal alcohol spectrum disorder – Each One Can Reach One!

Need family support visit www.toolboxparent.com
Need ideas for adults living with challenges of FASD visit www.braidedcord.net
Need information on fetal alcohol spectrum disorders visit www.betterendings.org
Interested in service dog for FASD visit www.thechancerchronicles.com

Mom’s Choice Gold Fiction Novel – FREE KINDLE – download

Better Endings New Beginnings is offering a FREE fun summer read of “Whitest Wall” our Mom’s Choice Gold Award – Best Fiction for Young Adults and Mom’s Choice Gold Award – Best Fiction Adults.

To get your FREE DOWNLOAD just click the book cover it will send you right over to Kindle Downloads – Enjoy and let us know how you like it.

Some current reviews:

The story starts in a small community of Riverdale where a horrible tragedy occurs. Sally find her husband shot to death in the woods near their home and the sheriff knows exactly who did it or does he?

It does seem like all the evidence points to Kevin, but as the story progress’s you start to wonder, did he really? 

Is it because of the way he acts and does racism have something to do with it?

As Kevin sits in jail, he starts doing strange things and the sheriff decides he needs to bring in a forensic criminal psychologist to assess Kevin. Dr. Lamar Watkins is hired and as he investigates Kevin we also learn about Lamar’s family and his past.

Unfolds a story about families and how similar/different they are to each other.

I really enjoyed reading about the different families and their lives, my favorite was about Q and Gunner. As you read you realize how these families are all intertwined with each other and the end was surprising and sad. 

Also how FASD can affect so many without them knowing it.


When Budget Cuts Create More Fail Firsts

There is no doubt that funding cuts are necessary,
and everyone will have a special program to address.

As a parent who has volunteered thousands of documented hours to MNASAP and daily provides 2-4 unpaid hours to adoptive families in crisis with tough kids I need to note that the infrastrucure these organizations provide me allow for efficient additional access to parents with children in crisis or handling complex issues. Families who adopt our Minnesota Waiting Children and Foster Families need supports to do a larger than typical life job. Behaviors due to genetic factors, prenatal factors and complex early life experiences are compounded when children are moved from family into new or established temporary family. These programs hired experienced, trained adoptive parents across the state to provide support, parenting skill development, and referrals to adoption-competent professionals and other community-based services to stabilize adoptive families and it was a place I could direct a family spinning out to gain parent to parent support – or be referred to trained and skilled professionals,

It has taken 10 years to get where we are today.
My daughter (diagnosed with fetal alcohol brain damage at 12.5 years) is in the first generation of this care – (one of the first three high-risk legal adoptions in 1986 – a foster baby at five months adopted at 14 months) She lead a successful life as a teen – graduated from high achool and passed her basic standards with a 70 IQ. This success happened because there were other organized families that surrounded us with ideas, compassion and directives to appropriate healthy supports. Other families we connected with who laughed and cried with us in this journey – developed friendships for respite.

Challenging children need safe places to play with caregivers who understand their issues. This is a chicken and egg issue – one could place blame on the child, or the new parents, or the system, or the original family. One could state this is an inappropriate funding priority that needs to be slashed. OR one could say that this system is working for families and children and because of this program we are seeing less complex issues arise. Our infrastructure fell apart when she reached 18 and aged out of supports – just as it has for so so many of these kids.

My recommendation, and I am but one, would be to increase ASAP and Harambee funding to develop an continuing adult program so that transition to adulthood is smoother and successful. Minnesota has been a leader in this area – these are the most vulnerable of our children – tough on the outside and fragile on the inside.

I challenge you to:
1. check the number of adoptive children (or previous foster children) in adult mental health
2. check the number of adoptive children (or previous foster children) who are incarcerated

CHECK THE COST of our adult failing infrastructure and it will give heed to what is about to happen to the younger age group also. Please look carefully at this issue. The answer is more complicated and it is perhaps because this sytem is working you do not see the total possible fallout. Parents are beginning to call and rely on other parents that is a real outcome, they also seek professionals when the issue become greater than what they understand.

In this time of economic trauma our young people suffer, our children suffers and our country suffers. The cost of adoptng a traumatized child is great. The cost of not allowing a child to have a healthy family is greater.

MN ASAP and Harambee have been instrumental in keeping families together – Personally I want to congratulate them on a job I hope they continue to do well.

Jodee Kulp
Director of