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“Winner 2012 USA Books Award” Best Young Adult Fiction
“Winner Mom’s Choice Gold Award” Best Young Adult Fiction
“Winner Mom’s Choice Gold Award” Best Adult Fiction

“This book should be read if every high school classroom in America!”

In a season of hurting, understanding differences in each other may be the bridge of healing and stopping future violence.

“Kulp has created a new third-person Catcher in the Rye”
– Lyelle Palmer, Ph.D., Special Education Professor Emeritus, Winona State University, Minnesota.

“Jodee Kulp’s beautifully drawn characters will touch your heart, mind and soul.”
– bestselling author, Diane Chamberlain, Before The Storm

The Whitest Wall has the ability to change the perception of how we view others, treat others and understand others. Learning how to deal with
brain injuries, neurodevelopmental therapies and living with a neurologic brain condition, is life threatening for many. Without the proper support, understanding or human connection, these injured beings fall from everyday life. Sometimes these injuries are not always heard or seen and people live in a silent world of pain. Kulp’s novel, “The Whitest Wall”, opens the door to the silence and screams to promote insight.

Kulp writes her novel with a sensitivity that speaks to her personal experiences with Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders (FASDs). She moves her characters freely and easily through her story giving them color and value so that readers are able to connect with them. This connection is what she uses as her learning tool. Her boomerang effect is that she teaches others about the nature of living with FASDs—she educates her readers on living with a neurological brain disorder.

“The Whitest Wall”, is meant to inspire conversation about FASDs. It is a novel that uses fiction as a vehicle for public education. Kulp interweaves her characters, she builds upon truth, sprinkles on fright and reality for flavor and delivers a fascinating story that will touch the hearts of everyone that reads “The Whitest Wall”.

— Sara Hassler, Midwest Book Review

A movie? Broken hearts, threads of opportunity, and fur-covered love

Fur-covered love inspires and encourages; will be a movie! Who’s gonna play me?

Friends from Roswell who faced insurmountable odds were blessed with a miracle service dog. First he writes a book; now he stars in a movie! Here’s the story of a service dog whose narrative is being made into a movie – a movie about a boy who lives with fetal alcohol syndrome and a Golden Retriever who gets another chance at love, with a family desperate for HIS special kind of help.
He got a second chance at love as a service dog for a family desperate for help. Now their story is being made into a MOVIE!
Too cool: 
A service dog brings calm to a family torn apart by fetal alcohol syndrome. Writes book about it; movie’s in the works! Think he knows?
This is a story of broken hearts, Titanic alcohol damage, and second chances. It is a story I have been blessed to help unfold over the last six years; a story that joyfully, and brilliantly, is becoming very well known, despite its being started by epic unraveling thousands of miles away.
A little background: an eternal optimistic opportunist, I see 50 ways that something will work where most sane folks only see downside. Where others see a single thread, I see entire tapestries. It is a blessing and a curse.
I needed a thread or two back in 2006 when I was working on a fundraising race to raise awareness for fetal alcohol spectrum disorders (FASDs), an umbrella term used to describe the range of effects that can occur to an individual whose mother consumed alcohol while pregnant. The most severe form of FASD is called fetal alcohol syndrome (FAS). FASD is not “a warm and fuzzy”; people do not get all whoopty-do about it. Most would rather NEVER hear about it, much less tell our sisters they can’t have a glass of wine for nine months. So when I heard about a particularly enthusiastic participant in the race, I was eager to meet her.
So, I met Donnie Winokur, a wisp of a woman with intense brown eyes and wildcat mother energy; that “I-will-fight-to- the-death-for-my-children-and-kick-your-butt-from-the-grave” urgency that I, as a long-time single mom, had run on for years.
Donnie’s urgency was about learning as much as she could, and connecting with as many people as possible, to figure out what to do for a precious little boy who was in a world of hurt, hurt that was hurting everyone in his world.
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The little boy was her son, a dream-come-true who’d been adopted, like his sister, from an orphanage in Russia, on what was a kind of second honeymoon for Donnie and her husband, Rabbi Harvey Winokur. “We didn’t try to get pregnant for long, opting instead, since we were older and this was the second marriage for both of us, to start the adoption process not long after we got married,” she said.
To cut to the chase here, Donnie and Harvey’s son and daughter, adopted in Russia and brought home to Roswell, GA in 1999, made them an instant family. The daughter developed beautifully, and today, at 14, is, physically and intellectually so much like her adoptive mother it is as though their souls were roommates in heaven for a million years before they were both made human.
The dream-come-true story with the little boy, however, started crumbling about the time he turned three, when epic meltdowns, mood swings, and rages grew with intensity as the little boy grew in size and strength.
After many consults with many doctors, the truth unraveled in the form of a “broken” umbilical cord. You see, the boy’s Russian birth mother might have been an alcoholic. Or not. Or she might not have known she was pregnant when she drank alcohol. Whatever the case, she’d had enough to drink at some point during her pregnancy with this precious child, that his brain had been hurt badly. Very badly. The very cord that gave him life also delivered deathly alcohol to his developing brain, affecting, in particular, the parts of his brain that regulate mood, emotions, memory, and the ability to communicate, discern, and deal with “no.”
I met a desperate Donnie Winokur a couple of years into her sometimes frantic search to learn about her son’s FAS, and to find anyone and everyone who might be able to help keep this family, knit together from oceans apart, from falling apart.
She was an enthusiastic volunteer. And opportunist that I was, I saw in her pain – a face for this cause.  She became, once some trust was established, a willing accomplice. She, too, saw tapestries where others saw threads.
I asked for an interview. She let me write her story, using her talents as a journalist to help edit it, and her wildcat mom energy to be sure I told it tenderly.
I asked to feature her family in a video. She had a persuasive dialogue with the reluctant rabbi, who ultimately let us film in the synagogue.
I asked her to be on a fundraising committee. She did it.
I asked her to give me input on a book I was writing about stopping the cycles of addiction and abuse, my way of using my pain to help myself and others.  We cried. We laughed. Our friendship deepened.
I asked if I could write a fundraising letter about her story. We made money on the letter and gathered new advocates for our cause.
She told me she wanted to get a dog to help her son, a dog that would be the first service dog ever to help a child with FAS by sensing an immanent outburst and using its love to help calm the child in ways no human can. I told her I thought it was a great idea. She told me her husband was dead-set against it. I told her, from experience, that mothers do rabies-crazy things because we are so in love with our children, and to listen to her gut.
She and her precious father and children brought home fur-covered love – a rescued golden retriever named “Chancer,” because hers was his second family; his second chance at love – that helped her son and became the rabbi’s best friend.
We did another video. The CDC did a video about her family and their experience with FASD in hopes of raising awareness of the fact there is no safe amount of alcohol, or safe time to drink if you are pregnant or could be pregnant.
We had awareness-building and fundraising schemes, dreams, and roadblocks that, as we climbed over them, made us stronger. And a little tired. After all, we’d hit our 50s together.
She was working on three books and we were both run ragged by children and traffic and board meetings and life and events and she decided to put her focus into the books. We stayed in touch, with emails and phone calls and rushed lunches or coffees and even a rare girls’ night out, just two moms and a hot dog.
And now, six years from our first meeting, her story has been told in an incredible award-winning book by her daughter. And in a second book, also published by Better Endings New Beginnings, that has garnered international awards and is the story of, and “written by,” the dog. And now in an epic feature spread in nothing less than the Sunday’s New York Times Magazine(2.5.12), written by a best-selling author who has woven this story and all its intricacies and miracles so beautifully, that I firmly believe there is a thread-for-thread matching tapestry of it hanging in heaven.
I invite you to get a second cup of coffee or tea and read this story (link below). Savor every word of it because you will want to read more. And more. And you will want, I believe, to see it told on a big screen. I know I do.  
Donnie do what she is so very, very good at doing: making sense of her family’s pain by using her experience, strength, and unfailing optimism to help others. 
UPDATE AS OF 11.5.12 – Chancer’s story WILL become a movie! It is being written by Writer/Co-Producer Karen Hall, who’s written for some of the most well-known TV shows of the last 30 years and the legendary movie “The Betty Ford Story”, and brought to the screen by Emmy Award winning director Martha Cotton .  Dreams are coming true. I am just wondering who’ll play ME in the movie. J Wonder Dog – A golden retriever was the only thing that could reach a raging, disconnected boy. – by Melissa Fay Greene – My Invisible World – life with my brother, his disability and his service dog by Morasha Winokur –  Nuzzle –love between a boy and his service dog by Donnie Winokur – Website with links to other publications, information, and opportunities about Donnie Winokur, her family, and Chancer, the “wonder dog.”
Carey Sipp’s first book, The TurnAround Mom – How an Abuse and Addiction Survivor Stopped the Toxic Cycle for Her Family, and How You Can, Too, guides fellow “children of chaos” to create the kind of sane and loving home life that helps prevent next-generation addiction and abuse. Her book is available at–/dp/0757305962/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1317756315&sr=8-1
Used with permission of  ©2012 ShareWIK Media Group, LLC 

#10 Days To FASDay – Pass on a fall read

Pass on a fall read to a friend 

you’d like to learn more about 

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The Whitest Wall by Jodee Kulp 

The Whitest Wall, a debut novel by Jodee Kulp is the winner of 2009 Best Adult Fiction and 2009 Best Young Adult Fiction by The Mom’s Choice Awards Foundation and a finalist for Book of the Year, Multicultural Fiction. The Whitest Wall has meets high school curriculum standards.

Jodee Kulp has created a new third person Catcher in the Rye
Kulp captures the chaotic turmoil of culturally-muddled miscommunication and FAS brain fog of lost-boy Kevin, a 21-year-old going-on-ten jailed for murder, seemingly by his own matter-of-fact confession. The Whitest Wall is a worthy read, a trip into a novel world, written with entertainment quality as vivid as a screenplay with a multitude of metaphors for interpretation and meaning. This tantalizing tale should engage youthful readers and provoke discussion among those of high-school age and older. Caulfield, move over, there is much more to tell!
— Dr. Lyelle Palmer

  • “What you don’t know won’t hurt you is a lie… Fiction, as C.S. Lewis would say, adds to reality, not just describes it. It enriches daily life and irrigates the deserts of our lives. Jodee Kulp is so adept at casting the players in The Whitest Wall and so passionate a story teller you will look at your neighbor through different eyes than ever before.”
    — Mac McConnell, author, “Forever Changed”, “Bozra””

    An inside view of FASD I am overcome with the manner in which Jodee was able to thread together racism, poverty, abuse, fetal alcohol, depression, and post traumatic stress disorder with smoothness that did not confuse the reader.”
    — Ruth A. Rice, FASD Program Director, White Earth

    “This is a must read book for everyone as it’s a topic that has been in the closet for too long. Jodee’s book will open everyone’s eyes that FASD is a very serious issue that we all need to become better educated about as well as develop services for those impacted by it. I can’t wait for Book 2.”
    — Glenys DiLissio Executive Director,

The high school version of The Whitest Wall just came to my office by UPS. A Gold Award winning novel by Mom’s Choice it meets high school curriculum standards in the following areas while building awareness of Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disoroders. Consider it for the high schools in your areas. Email if you are interested in getting this novel into your high school curriculum.
The Whitest Wall


  1. The Whitest Wall promotes an understanding of the diversity of the American English language in both a current and historic sense with the use of patterns and dialect.
  2. The reader will cross cultures, ethnic groups, geographic regions and social roles to acquire new information for a better response to the needs and demands of society and the workplace.
  3. The reader will draw on personal experience to reflect on the understanding of the other citizens. They will be challenged by portions of the texts with word meanings and misunderstandings. 

  1. Written for the development of a democratic citizenry to enable learners to engage in civic discourse and problem-solving, and to take informed civic action.
  2. The Whitest Wall can provide classroom discourse in the seven of ten theme areas:
    i) Culture
    ii) Time, continuity and change
    iii) People, places and environments
    iv) Individual development and identity
    v) Individuals, groups and institutions
    vi) Power, authority and governance
    vii) Global connections
    viii) Civic ideals and practice 

  1. Students analyze the influence of culture, media, technology and other factors on health.
  2. Students demonstrate understanding of health-enhancing behaviors, reduce health risks, use decision-making skills to enhance health and advocate for personal, family and community health.
  3. The Whitest Wall provides for opens discussion in content areas addressed by the US Center of Disease Control
    i) behaviors that result in intentional or unintentional injury
    ii) alcohol and other drug use
    iii) sexual behaviors
    iv) prevention of fetal alcohol spectrum disorders

#31 Days To FASDay – Write a poem

Write a poem and speak out!

I have a dream …

That one day little children will not be born with brain damage because of the alcohol they were fed before they were even borm.

I have a dream…

That one day persons with inivisible disabilities will not be treated second-class citizens, but will be able to participate in their local communities accepted in their differences

I have a dream…

That one day predators and persecutors will not addionally victimize persons with fetal alcohol. That people will realize it is no joke. That the day – to – day struggle is real and cannot be kissed away, or bandaged or ignored.

I have a dream…

That one day we will see all people as mattering.

On September 9, 1999, Liz (age 13)
and Jodee Kulp spoke out about the
realities of FASD. 

As my daughter, Liz Kulp said,

“You can’t be handicapped
if you are born like that. 
You just are.”

And this beautiful poem by 


By Jennifer Woodward
Peering into a shattered mirror, I try to find myself,
However, all I am is faceless.
I gave up searching because I am always lost.
You lost when you took away my mirror,
My only hope of learning, and living.
Why can you not fix me?
Oh, right how could I forget you did this to me?
I am trying to get over it, over you,
But finding broken pieces of my heart lying
Around me, reminding me of being not whole.
Looking at me in my mirror only leaves me scared and confused.
I cannot see me,
I am faceless.
The world does not see me,
They see a title.
Help me find myself,
Why must I grow knowing I am faceless?
$B!! (B
The face of FASD is sometimes faceless, silent as the world goes by not knowing that we exist. I want you to look me in the eyes and not shut me out, not forget about me. I am here. Maybe you need to look in your mirror.
$B!! (B
Written by: Jennifer Woodward
(Please use and give full credit to Jennifer) FASDay


The Million Mind March starts with a single step.

Daring to Live – He Won The Million Minds Race Without Ever Taking A Step

Jim Grimm never joined our Million Mind March, he died yesterday quietly in “his” home. He was 42 and he Dared to Live with Cerebral Palsy that captivated him to rejoice in a life few live so strongly. He never uttered a word, yet he profoundly and joyfully touched the lives of all who came to know him. He was an inspiration to all who met him.

Born with cerebral palsy and unable to communicate verbally or move of his own volition, Jim turned his severely isolating lifelong disability into a gift of connecting deeply with others. The community of Chisago Lakes rallied around the family while Jim was in preschool, little Jim went to school and graduated with his class in 1986. He was a friend to all. Independent and strong spirited, he moved into his “own” home as an adult and was surrounded by care givers who became his “Friends.” He climbed the first Liberty Ridge.

His Award Winning “The Heart’s Alphabet – Daring to live with Cerebral Palsy.” Won National Mom’s Choice Gold Award for Adult Memoirs. The Heart’s Alphabet is Jim’s self-told story, painstakingly spelled out, letter by letter, with the assistance of an interpreter is a tale of personal perseverance, a tribute to loving families, and-most of all-a testament to the possibilities that lie within each of us.

  • Jim ran the race of life wearing a wheelchair.
  • Jim taught life living independently hurdling barriers other placed before him.
  • Jim climbed Liberty Ridge – he scaled the impossible as a man
  • Jim spoke letter by letter with his tongue – his words and life live on in his book
  • Jim loved life, people, concerts, vacation, travel, sports & his dogs.

His dogs was how I was reunited with Jim last year. Jim was looking for a dog and he knew what “he” wanted. After visits with my large size puppies, he clicked with his tongue “No.” For Jim his No has always meant no, and his Yes has moved him forward. He never settled for I Can’t. For Jim has always been able to work with his family, love with his family, and do with his family and the community he became a part of – He expressed his needs – as a child and as a wholesome and loving man.

His parents, his sister and brother and the community he embraced can rejoice in a life lived with courage and strength. He won the race, he finished his life and I am sure on both feet this man raced into heaven – his job well done! For Jim death was his first step – and knowing him his body free he can now run and jump at last.

“If I rise on the wings of the dawn,
If I settle on the far side of the sea,
even there your hand will guide me.
Your right hand will hold me fast.”
Psalm 139:9

His website is

May his family be blessed in their remembrances.

Best I Can Be by Liz Kulp will receive gold award in 2009

Being an adult with FASD is a struggle and a bright light in this holiday season for our family and especially Liz Kulp is that her book The Best I Can Be written when she was almost 13 will be recognized as the Mom’s Choice Gold Award 2009 for Best Young Author. Liz’s dream was to provide information to people who could not understand how her brain works and how she thinks and enjoys life. The book was a hard struggle for a young person who at that point did not write, each handwritten paragaph copied from recipe cards took over twenty minutes.

It has been a privilege to embrace parenting Liz – a struggle sometimes for both of us, but never without wonder and adventure. My daughter never ceases to amaze me with her insight and how she understands the world. I want to publically congratulate her for risking voicing her opinion and openning the doors for others. Liz will continue to open doors as she transverses adulthood – watch out world – she just keeps on moving forward in a dance that is all hers. – Blessing on the work you are doing in your next book – may it change as many hearts of those who do not understand as The Best I Can Be.

– Love Mom